Being My True Self When I’m Blogging, and Producing ‘Good Content’ // A Discussion On Having an Authentic Blogging Voice as Opposed to Creating a False Image of Myself

As some of you may know, I started this blog in January of 2019.

In the first year of blogging here, I was a very very sporadic poster, and never really stuck to a schedule or ‘niche,’ if you will. I had no idea on earth as to what I was doing; most of my posts were wrap-ups (which weren’t at all great . . .), and the few posts I did have which weren’t didn’t have much direction or meaning. I had no post headers, or graphics, and while this isn’t by no means a bad thing, my terribly-written posts didn’t make up for my lack of visual aesthetic.

But if you read the title of this post, you’re probably wondering what exactly the above has to do with the title, and to give that answer: along with the lackluster blog content I created, nothing about my posts felt ‘me’ at all. I tried to use a blogging voice that wasn’t mine, I was terribly-joke heavy even though my humor was so, so forced—and at that, completely missed the mark because I wasn’t near to being funny—and even while I wasn’t prolific with posts, I prioritized quantity over quality with my posts and would write them just to get the post out, rather than being content and proud with what I was posting. Even though blogging was something I wanted to partake seriously, but still purely for fun, I always felt sapped of motivation to actually write any posts. Writing the most simple descriptions of books took so much time because I was continually writing in this voice that wasn’t at all me, and rather a voice I thought would appeal to others.

But it did completely different. The amount of interaction I was getting with my posts were so low (and reading back at my posts, I don’t know how I would have thought of something genuine to comment with), and how were my posts supposed to be interesting to others if I didn’t find them interesting myself?

I don’t really know why I was doing any of this either – surely I would have known after a while everything about my posts weren’t working for me, or for others. Of course, blogging shouldn’t be something done solely for the pleasure of others, but I think if there is no appreciation or positive end result to one’s content, then what’s the point . . . ? I feel as if I’m being too harsh towards myself, after all, I did just start to blog on a whim with no previous knowledge or experience with blogging.

But also, I would like to talk about producing content deemed as high-effort, or just to but it simply, ‘good.’ Calling something that is obviously extremely subjective; I could call let’s say, Sadie by Courtney Summers a good book while someone else could consider it the worst book they’ve ever read. But when I say ‘good,’ I want to give it the meaning of content which is most of the time, high-effort, and personally treasured by the creator. All my posts from last year were neither. I even said it myself once in one of my posts last year (as a joke, but looking back, it does very well stand true), that I wasn’t proud of any of my content, and my posts were the complete opposite of high effort. I don’t think I had one original idea throughout the 30 posts I had, and the average word count of my posts in 2019 was a little higher than 1,000, while this year it’s over 1,300.

And when I was recently reading over all my old posts, it felt like I was reading the same thing over and over again – making goals to read an impossible amount of books per month because I couldn’t come to terms with the fact I’m very much a slow reader, promising I’d post more every single time only to do the exact opposite, and writing with this voice that looked as if it was a completely different person.

Coming back to blogging March of this year I wanted change these things about my posts, to be as authentic as allowed and put effort into all of my posts, and when I started blogging again in April I think I’ve been doing well with that. Even though I’ve only posted 9 times since coming back, and this will be my 10th post, I love every single one of my posts this year and I hope the feeling continues. I’ve privated pretty much all of my older posts because as I said previously, they feel nothing like myself and I’m not proud of them at all. If I have a post idea, but I don’t think I’ll be able to talk about it in a way where it doesn’t seem forced, I leave it alone. I’ve been posting consistently, and aside from quantitative aspects I’m content with the quality of my posts.

This post both feels like what I’m trying to say comes across well, but it also seems terribly rambly, so I’d love to know what you think regarding this topic! It seems as if when we start blogging it’s very hard to pinpoint our blogging voice and find exactly what message we are conveying generally in our blogs (though I haven’t been blogging for long). This is something I’ve been sitting on ever since March so it’s so freeing to actually be discussing it now, and I hope you understand what I’m trying to say!

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Does this post feel rambly? I really hope not. Do you have a serious approach in your writing voice, or a more jokeful one? What’s a recent book you’ve read with a strong writing voice?

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36 thoughts on “Being My True Self When I’m Blogging, and Producing ‘Good Content’ // A Discussion On Having an Authentic Blogging Voice as Opposed to Creating a False Image of Myself

  1. Hey Faith! I loved this post. I believe you’re right when you say it’s hard to find our “blogging voice” and that sometimes that makes us insecure about our content -but we can learn from that, look for advice and try to put out posts that makes us proud of what we do. I think my blogging voice has a more serious approach as I feel very self-conscious making jokes because I think no one will find them funny😅

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  2. I loved reading this post Faith, it was such an interesting discussion. Blogging voice is such a tricky one because I know the balance between being authentic and trying to add humour etc is so difficult! I feel like my blogging voice is kind of different to how I am in real life but not because it’s not ‘me’ – just because it’s so much easier to be confident on a typed post than talking irl! I’m glad you’ve found your blogging voice now though and I’ve loved your posts lately💗💗

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  3. I’m glad you’re enjoying blogging more now! I think blogging about things you like and want to ramble on about is a good sign that you’re moving towards a more authentic voice. There’s nothing more authentic than genuine enthusiasm and that shows!

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  4. This post is so relatable and not rambly at all, Faith! I really love how much thought you’ve given to this topic because you’ve brought up really good points!
    I honestly have no idea what my blogging voice is and feel like I’m constantly flip-flopping between making it more casual or formal sounding?? I find that I have to approach each post separately and write each with whatever tone feels right – but even then, I don’t know if people will read them in whatever voice I wrote them in 😅? (idk if that makes sense hahaha.)
    And I can see what you mean about producing high-effort posts! I’ve also found that the content I feel more excited and proud to share is more well-received. Blogging should definitely be about what you want to share, but no one wants to feel unheard.
    There’s nothing wrong with creating the usual book blog type posts, but I know that I personally enjoy interacting with posts (like discussions like these!) that offer new perspectives and really encourage conversation 🙂.
    It’s so awesome that you feel proud of your blog posts lately 😄!

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    1. Thank you so much, Belle! 🥺 Also I really love your blogging voice! Your posts always feel so inviting in the way you’re talking to a friend (idk how to explain it but I do really like it 😭) And I love reading discussions as well! They’re so interesting and informative to read. Thank you again you’re so nice 😭🥰

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  5. Yes your post is a bit rambly but rambly posts are my j a m so it’s not a bad thing! 🙂
    I mean I just write hoewever I want to write and I have weird jokes and stuff but like?? It’s more sarcastic than anything else I think.
    Tbh I’m rarely ever serious and apparently my mom says that’s a bad thing?? But I mean ok boomer hahahahah (KIDDING KIDDING KIDDING I LOVE MY MOM)
    Um I have no idea but this is the opposite: FANTASY BOOKS. UGh. They don’t have the best voice. They alllllll sounnnnnnnnd the sameeeeeeeee which SUCKS because I love fantasy but they’re literally ALL THE SAME ughhghghghgghghh. I mean obviously there are exceptions (Six of Crows and The Cruel Prince and also others that I don’t own therefore cannot come up with by looking at my bookshelf) but like?? WHY?! If you can write good books with different voices for so many other genres, why is it all musty and dull for fantasy? It’s really dumb. I hate it.
    Anyway there’s me rambling! MAY THE FORCE BE WITH YOU!
    (and you should write rants more often)

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    1. I’m glad 😭 And tbh I don’t think I’m that serious generally but when I’m writing something that’s not like a text or informal comment I feel more comfortable writing seriously? And yeah fantasy books definitely tend to all sound the same, probably because they’re usually written in third person maybe. Also GJKLGHJKGHJK I can’t rant well to save my life but thank you for the suggestion!! .

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  6. You’re so right about about “blogging voices.” It can be really hard to make blog posts sound like yourself. I only just started my blog and I was immediately hit with “why are my posts so stiff and peppy? that’s not me at all.” I have to go over each post just to edit for naturalness and remind myself to just say what I’m thinking, without running it through a Book Blogger Voice Filter. It’s weird and kinda offputting how that happens. But since you’ve found your happy place for your voice, I guess with time and practice you start to relax and write more naturally, so that’s hopeful

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  7. I definitely understand your struggle. I jumped into blogging without knowing much about the community, so I didn’t start out trying to sound a certain way, but later on, when I saw all the funny bloggers I wanted to be like that, as well. 😅 It’s obviously impossible and kind of painful to try to replicate others’ voice, but I really tried for a while there. 😅 I think I can be funny irl and I make jokes, but on the blog it felt so stilted and awkward. I had to accept that my blogging voice is more serious, and then I toned that down a little, so instead of an essay-like voice, now I think it’s more normal.

    I definitely feel you on the quantity over quality issue – I did the same thing when I started blogging, I did all the memes and reviewed EVERYTHING I read, even the books I didn’t have a lot to say about. I slowly learnt that quality is a lot more important, thankfully. This was such a great discussion, I really loved reading your journey to finding your blogging voice! 🙂

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  8. Hey!! I loved this post?? I get what you mean when you say it’s hard to find a voice / just somehow chuck your personality onto the screen. it’s not EASY. Blogging Me vs Real Life Me isn’t always the same?? I feel like blogging me is more upbeat and scream-y while real life me kind of controls that. But, I’m still ME. I think your blogging voice should be whatever you want it to be (as long as it’s not rude/offensive of course) as I don’t think we should expect ourselves to come across the same way as we do in real life. i guess people will always interpret what we write in a different way to how we interpret what we write (even in this comment!!). this was a really great thought-provoking post ❤

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    1. Thank so you much, Lu! And I I completely understand what you’re saying! I feel like I’m opposite of that, too? Like in real life I’m usually not serious and joke all the time, but when I’m writing something in long lengths (for example like a blog post or a Goodreads review) it feels much more comfortable for me to be more serious, but in more casual online environments (such as Twitter, or messages) I’m casual and joke-heavy.

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      1. you’re welcome!! oh that’s interesting??? i’m jokey in real life (and a mess too) and i feel like that’s even more apparent on my blog?? it’s interesting how it works for different people! (tho in real life i can get super serious about a topic if I’m passionate about it!!)

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  9. This post was so great!! As a book blogger who has only started taking blogging seriously very recently, I can totally relate to this! I have a really hard time coming up with things to say about the books that I read, and a lot of my old reviews have mostly been, “Here’s the synopsis, and I like this book.” It’s really nice to hear that I’m not the only one who has struggled to use their voice in their reviews!

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  10. honestly, faith, i think you have a really good writing voice. that’s something i very much struggle with, and i think i’m still trying to find mine. but i think is badass that, even though you haven’t been consistently blogging for long, all your posts are super strong. like you said, prioritizing quality over quantity is very important. i don’t know if i am doing this exactly. while i don’t find any of my posts awful to look back on, i for sure feel like some bloggers out there definitely put a lot more effort into their posts than i do. but that doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing! i think the way i’ve been approaching blogging recently has been more about having fun & talking about topics i want to talk about, rather than the ones i feel like i “should”, if that makes sense. i think that’s why i haven’t been beating myself up so much for always talking about the same books. whenever i answered tags and such, i’d literally go back to all the previous five posts i had done and i’d check if i wasn’t repeating titles, which isn’t even that important, because most readers wouldn’t even notice if i did talk about the same book twice in a spam of two posts, but that was something i was very worried about. now, i don’t care as much if i sound repetitive, because i think it’s also important for readers to see my taste as something consistent and hopefully, even associate certain books/series with me because of how much i talk about them, hahah.
    anyway! this comment ended up taking a completely different direction, but i think what i was trying to say is that i understand the struggle of trying to be “original”. i think it’s time i also start to embrace i have more of a basic writing voice, because that’s who i am in real life too! i think it’s reflective of me and that’s all that matters.

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  11. I love this post so much!!! I can totally relate – I haven’t felt this so much with blogging, because I run my blog with my best friend so most of the posts are just us having fun and putting out content that we love. We don’t put any pressure on ourselves at all to post in a particular way or to spurn out quality content on the regular. So I’m very thankful that I have Nish! 🥰

    BUT I definitely felt this back when I had a youtube channel – I just felt like my voice was lost in a sea, and even though I feel like I did stay true to who I was initially, as I grew, I felt like I had to stick to the personality that initially drew everyone in when I first started my channel 😢 And there was definitely so much pressure to produce unique content, post consistently, have huge book hauls etc etc.

    Amazing post & I’m so happy for you! Excited to see what you continue to bring to the book community 💛

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  12. this discussion is so well-written, faith, i love it so much! i think every blogger can relate to trying to fit ourselves into a box that didn’t really fit us — i know i struggled with coming to terms with my own blogging voice for a while and have only recently felt happy/myself! (not only did my humor use to be Extremely cringy but it also was just so forced.)

    i’m really glad that your posts now are feeling more you, and that you’re also proud of the content you’re putting out! i think that’s the end goal — sometimes a post won’t do as well audience-wise as i thought or hoped, but if i loved the post and had fun writing it, that’s what matters to me!! ❤

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  13. THIS!! I feel like there’s a lot of pressure in this community to cater to what’s already being done in terms of how we write book reviews, recommendations, monthly reviews, etc. But on the other hand, I really love what you’re doing with your blog! Finding our own voices is just as important, if not more so, than writing the traditional “book blogger” posts, and I’m glad you’re doing that in your posts.

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  14. Hello! I can totally relate with you. I’ve just started my blog and I think i haven’t found my voice yet. Even if your post is rambly, i find it genuine. And that’s something i don’t see often. xx

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    1. I’m so glad you can (I feel like it sounds like such a weird thing to say but I genuinely am sdfghjk)!! Blogging voice is such a struggle but I really do hope you’ll be able to find yours soon and be more comfortable with blogging! And thank you so much I’m so flattered 🥰

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  15. I really loved this post and it’s something i used to think about when i was finding my own blogging voice! I think it’s great that you were so honest about how the process was for you and about how sometimes you read yourself after a while and you can’t recognize your voice. I think sharing content we like is important and it’s also important how we convey that, and there is no one right way to do it! even the same blogger can write more serious posts and more rambly or gushy ones as long as they’re comfortable with it, but if a more serious approach is what works best for you that’s absolutely valid. the important thing is to remember that as long as you’re you, your content will be unique, and it’s also okay to try stuff out and see what works and what doesn’t for you, and i think it’s important to note that this is something you’re absolutely allowed to change and adjust to your Current You and you don’t have to adhere to what the you from months ago found comfortable for them! i… hope that makes sense at least ghsdlfhsl but anyway, thank you for a great post and for being honest about this topic! ♥

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  16. I relate to this so much because when I first started blogging I used tried to use a humor that I thought people would enjoy, and I wrote in a voice that wasn’t mine and it just made it harder to write. I think I was doing it because I wanted to give my readers what they “wanted”, if I even knew what that was. I was trying to be anything but myself, and in blogging you just need to be yourself or it’s going to be 100x harder! I loved this post!!

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  17. Ah I love this post! When I started my blog, I already had a writing voice of sorts, since I’d been writing a lot although writing fiction and writing blog posts are very different. I think I’ve been lucky in that I’ve always written in a voice that is mine, over the years it’s definitely grown and I’ve learned how to better balance my own voice (which is like my inner monologue/if you were to have a conversation with me) with a more formal-ish voice for certain posts if that makes any sense? Certain posts for me are rambly and full of my sass, other posts I pull back the sass to allow the topic I’m talking about to really shine through. I’m not sure if that makes sense 😅 I really hope it does though haha

    I will say I definitely felt like I was trying to fit into the box of posting book reviews, in that sense I was trying to do something, that really wasn’t me. I don’t enjoy writing reviews but because reviews are a staple content type on book blogs I felt like I had to post them. It’s only now as I’ve grown with my blog that I realised I don’t need to. I think when you start a blog the entire process is very daunting, particularly when you surround yourself with bloggers, who appear to have it all put together. The blogging voice, the blog posts being consistent, graphics but the important thing to remember is there is no wrong way to do this. As long the way you blog feels true to you, I think that’s one of the most important things that matter.

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  18. This is such a great post, and a really important one too!

    I think looking outside of ourselves is something we do in literally every aspect of our lives until we unlearn it and start looking inwardly instead. I’ve been blogging for several years, but I don’t think I’ve really felt like a part of the book blogging community until a couple of years ago when, like you, I stopped trying to be entertaining and just started being myself. It’s really difficult, though, when you first sit back and think ‘What do I find interesting?’ instead of ‘What will readers find interesting?’ When you write about the things you’re passionate about, it’ll attract the right people and before you know it you have a bunch of blogging friends!

    I hope you continue to have a lot of fun on your blogging journey! 😀

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